Fathers Have Equal Legal Standing
English family law does not discriminate between mothers and fathers. The Children Act 1989 makes no distinction. The only question the court asks is what is in the best interests of the child. A father who is capable of meeting his child's needs and who has a good relationship with the child has exactly the same standing as a mother in that position.
Parental Responsibility for Fathers
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A father who was married to the child's mother at the time of birth has automatic parental responsibility. An unmarried father who is named on the birth certificate (for births registered after 1 December 2003) also has automatic parental responsibility. A father without parental responsibility can apply to the court for it.
The Reality of Family Court
Statistics show that in the majority of contested cases, children end up living primarily with their mother. This is not because the law favours mothers -- it is because mothers are more often the primary carer before the relationship breaks down, and the court is reluctant to disrupt established arrangements unless there is good reason.
How to Strengthen Your Position
The most important thing a father can do is demonstrate that he is a committed, child-focused parent. Be involved in the child's life -- school events, medical appointments, daily routine. Avoid conflict with the mother in front of or through the child. Focus every argument on the child's welfare, not on your rights as a parent.
Applying to the Family Court
If the mother is preventing contact, you can apply to the family court using a C100 form for a child arrangements order. The court has a range of orders available and takes seriously the importance of children maintaining relationships with both parents.